Relationships are as hard as you make them. We can find so many things to be petty about and those things can ruin a relationship. If you want to argue, you don’t want your relationship to work. You have to communicate, not argue. You can’t argue about everything that crosses your mind. Pick your battles wisely. Make sure you have actual evidence and facts, not just speculation and opinions. Make sure the things you want to argue about aren’t rooted in your insecurities or pain from your past.
I have a rule that says “if it’s not worth breaking up over, it’s not worth arguing over.” You can discuss it like adults. You can disagree, but that shouldn’t turn into an argument. Seek solutions, not more problems. Don’t let your insecurities and pettiness ruin your relationship. Be man or woman enough to address things appropriately and to ignore things that don’t deserve your attention.
Tony Gaskins Jr.