Love is a healthy compromise. Today I walked 8 miles with my wife. When we got home we were drenched in sweat. I hopped in the shower quick while she fed the baby and got him ready for his afternoon nap. When I got out of the shower I was so tired and I was behind on work. She said she was gonna ask me to get in the pool with her but I showered too fast. Knowing that she wanted to get in the pool I said lets do it. I didn’t feel like it. I didn’t feel like it at all, but I did it. Then after the pool I had to take a second shower within an hour, but this time I had company and that shower went on to some fun.. I’ll leave that there so I don’t have to change my PG rating on the blog..
But I learned a valuable lesson that I’ve known, but sometimes forget.. That lesson is that love is a healthy compromise. You have to give to get. Men and women are different and we need and want different things but we have to find a way to meet in the middle without compromising our self-worth and respect. It didn’t hurt me to swim after walking 8 miles and showering. The end result of all that was what I wanted but I had to give to get. As a woman she wants romance. She wants love and affection. She wants quality time. As a man I don’t need as much nor do I want as much but it doesn’t hurt me to compromise for her. When it was all said and done, she got what she wanted and I got what I wanted and we both needed the same things. Love, time, and affection.
Get out of your comfort zone for your partner. Do some things they want to do and have fun doing it. You’ll get something out of the deal too.
Never compromise your self-worth or self-respect and don’t keep compromising if it’s not being reciprocated, ever!
Tony A. Gaskins Jr.