We are told as young men that it’s a woman’s job to cook and clean. We expect to make money and provide, fix the little jobs around the home and that’s it. My wife has been cooking dinner and after she’s done she’s asked me to help her clean up. I’m normally sitting by her working, but I got up and helped out. Monday night I washed all the baby bottles and cleaned up the playroom. Last night after dinner I had to leave and go to the store to buy some more tupperware, then I came home and washed out the bottles, cleaned up the playroom, swept the kitchen floor, put up all the leftover food into the tupperware, cleaned the table, and took out the trash and recycling. I was tired after, but we got everything done by 10pm. If I hadn’t helped her it would have taken her until 11pm.
I was reminded this week there are no gender-roles in a relationship. A man can clean up and a woman can take out the trash. We have to do what we have to do and there are no lines. The only line is if you don’t know how to do something, and if that’s the case, let your partner teach you so you can pitch in if need be.
I’ve also noticed that when I help clean up it’s sexy to my wife. She gives me a different type of love and affection after I’ve pitched in around the house. Of course I love that benefit. So now, every night I’m not on the road speaking I’ll be around here pitching in. It made me feel like more of a man, and I was treated like more of a man.
We’ve been lied to all this time.
Tony A. Gaskins Jr.