I’ve learned over the years that everyone is carrying something. This isn’t a new revelation because we’ve all heard the sayings telling us not to think the grass is greener on the other side. Unfortunately, we don’t listen. We still find people to look at and believe what they are showing us. We see one side of their life and assume everything is perfect. Truth is, people are great at hiding pain. You look at one person and their love life looks perfect, but what you don’t know is their finances are in very bad shape. You look at another person and their finances seem to be doing very well, but what you don’t know is their relationship is suffering. For some, the money and the relationship may look great but you don’t really know the real situation behind closed doors.
We are all victims of perception. We believe what we see. Knowing that, we show what we want people to believe. No one shows it all or tells it all. If we did that, we would look crazy. The people who are actually 100% transparent are what we call crazy. It’s just not normal to broadcast all of your struggles. It’s also not wise to broadcast all of your struggles. What is wise is to work on them quietly behind closed doors. What is also wise is to not believe everything you see. Stop counting my blessings and start counting yours. I can match you problem-for-problem. The difference is when you decide to focus on the solutions instead of the problems.
Don’t compare yourself:
From this day forward, stop comparing yourself. You’ll never see or hear someone’s full story. There will always be details you don’t have access to and those details tell a whole different story. Just know that they are striving just like you to be a better person.
Don’t expect help:
Yes, help may come but don’t get mad if it doesn’t. Don’t hold a grudge against those who didn’t lend a helping hand. They didn’t lend a hand because their hands are full. Yes, they should have still tried to help but not everyone has a solution for their problems yet. Understand they are struggling just as you are, so keep living your life.
Work on your problems:
Spend less time watching and more time working. If you would direct more of your attention to yourself, life will change drastically for you. There are seasons of work that you must go through if you want the next level. It may sound crazy or like you’re not “living,” but the truth is that you aren’t living if you’re always watching others. Take a season and give the hours you give to television or social media and give it to yourself. It doesn’t mean you have to eliminate it completely, but cut back drastically. Imagine what a focused hour every day could do for your dreams. Pay attention to how much time you’re giving to gossip online, funny videos, and watching the lives of others. If you claim just half of that time and give it to your goals, your life will never be the same.
Trust Me On This
Nothing is as it seems. The behind-the-scenes are very different from what you see. Everyone is battling something. Everyone is trying to get better in areas you don’t know about. No one’s life is actually better than yours. You just have the wrong vantage point. Work on you and let your life be an inspiration to others!
Tony A. Gaskins Jr.