Help your woman

We are told as young men that it’s a woman’s job to cook and clean. We expect to make money and provide, fix the little jobs around the home and that’s it. My wife has been cooking dinner and after she’s done she’s asked me to help her clean up. I’m normally sitting by her working, but I got up and helped out. Monday night I washed all the baby bottles and cleaned up the playroom. Last night after dinner I had to leave and go to the store to buy some more tupperware, then I came home and washed out the bottles, cleaned up the playroom, swept the kitchen floor, put up all the leftover food into the tupperware, cleaned the table, and took out the trash and recycling. I was tired after, but we got everything done by 10pm. If I hadn’t helped her it would have taken her until 11pm.

I was reminded this week there are no gender-roles in a relationship. A man can clean up and a woman can take out the trash. We have to do what we have to do and there are no lines. The only line is if you don’t know how to do something, and if that’s the case, let your partner teach you so you can pitch in if need be.

I’ve also noticed that when I help clean up it’s sexy to my wife. She gives me a different type of love and affection after I’ve pitched in around the house. Of course I love that benefit. So now, every night I’m not on the road speaking I’ll be around here pitching in. It made me feel like more of a man, and I was treated like more of a man.

We’ve been lied to all this time.


Tony A. Gaskins Jr.

Author: tonygaskinsblog

Husband. Father. Bestselling Author. Celebrity Life Coach. International Speaker.

3 thoughts on “Help your woman”

  1. I agree with this completely. If something needs to be done….. It does not matter who does it as long as what needs to get done is done. Especially if both people in the home work or are busy during the day. I think it takes a lot of self awareness from a man to help out his woman with house work and not just tell the woman its her job to take care of the homes while he sits down and does nothing.


  2. Great point, because when you are in a relationship/marriage its all about teamwork; when you as a man can step up and do your part and put your selfish pride away it shows growth; as your woman/wife can lean on you knowing you have her back and she is not alone in this journey with you; to a woman its a way of affection to her emotional needs because you have shown her appreciation by giving her support and showing you care by your actions; and its boost a woman self confidence because she feeds off of your strength as a man; where many men don’t take it into consideration, that’s why many relationships/marriages fails because of a single selfish mindset while committed to a significant other.


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