If you look in the news you’ll see a celebrity break-up about every week. With so many of these relationships, we put them on a pedestal. We aspire to have a love that looks like a magazine cover. We don’t often consider the work it takes to make a relationship work. I once heard a gentleman say, love has an expiration date. I later realized that he’d never experienced real love. Because once you have real love you realize that it doesn’t leave. It gets stronger with time. Do you stop loving your child? No, because once you love your child, you love them forever. It’s real love. There are different types of love of course, but love is still love. Love is strong and it doesn’t have an expiration date.
On the other hand, lust does. Lust is burning hot in the beginning but if there’s no substance in the relationship the lust will sizzle out. We see so many couples start out on fire and then before you know it the flame is gone. Love takes work. Love is deeper than lust. It’s the next level. Lust has to evolve into love in order to be sustained. You can lust for someone you love but love has to be there even if the lust leaves. There comes a time when sex isn’t as needed but what is needed is real love.
What I want you to understand is that if you lost a relationship, you didn’t lose real love. That was lust that ran out. Surely you could have loved that person, but that doesn’t mean they loved you in return. If you’ve ever truly loved then you know you never stop loving. Love and relationships aren’t always synonymous. So when you see relationships fall apart don’t lose hope in love. Love is still standing and it’s very real!
Tony A. Gaskins Jr.