Forgiving can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. But you have to do it. It doesn’t matter how bad it was, forgiveness is necessary. Forgiveness is necessary for you, not them. If you don’t forgive you’ll become the prisoner to your past. They move on and live their life even if they are still hurting people. You have to make up your mind to forgive and then start the healing process. When you hold onto the pain, hate, anger, frustration it drains you and it blocks all of your blessings. Cast your cares on the Lord. Release the pain and start fresh. Don’t even be a prisoner of petty grudges. People do some stupid stuff in life. People can hurt you in a million different ways but you don’t have to remain hurt. You can get up. You can move forward stronger and wiser.

Here are a few ways to to forgive:

Write a letter:

Write a letter from your heart. Then put the letter in a forgiveness box where you put every letter to every person you’re holding a grudge against. Then put the box in a hidden but safe place. If you’re not strong enough to have it in your home then find somewhere you can burn the letter and release the hate in your heart as you watch the letter burn.

Pray daily for strength:

Pray daily for strength. As soon as you pray, believe that you are stronger. Just the words leaving your mouth will give you strength beyond understanding. You have to pray or you’ll remain in the same hole you’ve lived in for too long.

Invest in yourself:

Start going to seminars. Read more books. Start a blog. Start a company. Expand your current business with a new tool or toy that can add a little more joy to your work. Focus on yourself instead of the person who hurt you.

Those are just a few ways you can start the healing process, there are many more! If you need more please sign up for the Real Love University!


Tony A. Gaskins Jr.


Author: tonygaskinsblog

Husband. Father. Bestselling Author. Celebrity Life Coach. International Speaker.

1 thought on “Forgiveness”

  1. Thank you Tony for reinforcement of this. Forgiveness is free and it does benefit me. I was taught this at an early age and I have been dealing with some negative feelings in that area. I follow you, I read your books and look forward to hearing what you have to say. Thanks again


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