When there is no trust…

If there is no trust, there is no relationship. If you can’t trust the person you’re with, you’re with the wrong person. If you want to be in a relationship you have to find it in your heart to forgive and forget. Forgetting doesn’t mean you don’t remember what happened. It means that you don’t remind the person of what they did, over and over again. Don’t force a person to be a prisoner to their past mistakes. Let it go or let him/her go. It’s not fair to either of you to stay in a relationship stuck in the past. Make a decision and then move forward.

If you’re innocent and you’re being blamed for things that you aren’t doing, you have to put a stop to it. You have the right to protect your peace of mind. You have to sit down and have a serious talk with your partner. You have to express your heart and let them know how much you love them. Let them know why you would never cheat. Let them know that you’d leave before cheating. Let them know that you refuse to be in a relationship where there is no trust. Then find out what’s wrong with them. They’re either cheating, have cheated in their past, saw relationships with cheating, or were cheated on. Whatever it is has to be discussed and solved through a series of conversations. If you can’t do it alone then you must require them to talk with a professional who can put it in the words they need to hear. False accusations cannot be tolerated.

A relationship must have trust to be worth anything at all. If you can’t find the trust then you will lose the relationship.


Tony A. Gaskins Jr.

Author: tonygaskinsblog

Husband. Father. Bestselling Author. Celebrity Life Coach. International Speaker.

4 thoughts on “When there is no trust…”

  1. Hey Tony. I was wondering if you maybe make a video on what forgiveness means, or how to practice forgiveness, this subject might a different thing to many of us, but i want to understand what does it mean and can you begin to forgive and let go.


    1. Trust is built on truth. Knowing your partner’s values and seeing their values backed up with actions. If there are doubts than that means you do not 100% trust them. Look at the way the person treats you, does it it match what they say and do? IF a person really loves you, they tell you the truth, they treat you with respect and they value you. Ask yourself where the doubt is coming from. Is it from your own insecurities? Do you not trust yourself? or feel you deserve love? Are you projecting your fears onto another? is their a valid reason not to trust the other person? How so? Be honest with yourself, you already know the answer.


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