Be willing to walk alone…

There will be times in your life that you’ll have to walk alone. There are some places that no one else can go with you. These are the growth spaces in your life that you have to go in order to grow. Most of the time your growth will be alone. When you don’t need people that’s usually when they are there for you. When you really need help many of those people won’t be there. It’s in those times that you must learn and grow.

Before your breakthrough you’ll go through a drought. The drought is to sweat everyone out. Those who aren’t supposed to enter into your best season with you will fall off in the drought. If you don’t know the purpose of the drought you’ll be upset with them. In the drought is also where you discover who you are and why you’re here. You will map out a new plan for life and how you should live your life moving forward. It’s the tough times that build your character so you don’t lose yourself in the good times. If you’re given everything before you’re ready to receive it, it will kill you. We’ve seen money, fame, or success kill many people. Appreciate the tough times just like you’d appreciate the good times. Smile all the way through it. Laugh in the face of adversity. When bad gets even worse, don’t lose faith. All of this is working together for your good. You’re being pruned and then you’ll be groomed. Embrace this season in your life and know that it’s for a reason.

On the other side of your drought the blessings will be overflowing. Those who fell off will try to come back but you’ll know to keep them at a distance and love them from there. Let the natural occur and keep going!! It’s working together for your good.

Blessings,

Tony G.

Taking Love around the world….

I’ve been touring alone since 2011, but I’ve been speaking on love since 2007.  It’s been a journey and I still have a long ways to go. I wanted to share some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way. There are really too many lessons to put in this one blog but the few that I’ll share apply to life in general.

I speak on love because love changed my life. Before I knew the Bible says that love is the greatest gift given to mankind, love had already changed my life. When you truly learn how to love yourself and how to purely love someone else it’s hard not to share what you’ve learned. I started in 2007. I was still growing in love. Things got really serious in 2010. Back then twitter was new to my demographic so I was one of the first out the gate. That’s probably why you see that my following across the major social media networks is one of the largest among people who don’t have a TV show or Radio show. I have over 2.8M supporters online and it all happened organically. I never asked for a supporter or paid for the fake followers to boost numbers. I just shared a real and raw message. Most of the time my message is too raw. I’m not big on glitz and glam. If you notice, my YouTube videos are shot with poor quality because I shoot with my phone most of the time. The reason being is because I don’t like feeling processed when I’m sharing a message. I like to feel organic. You know the difference between processed food and organic food? Yeah, that’s what I mean. I’m organic. I might not look as pretty or be packaged as nice but what I give you will sustain you. That’s my style and it’s been hard trying to be more polished and pretty.

Because it seemed like I was shot out of a cannon online and people were seeing my quotes in a lot of places it made other people see my calling as a career. Then a lot of people joined me in the space and it’s getting crowded. It’s hard to tell the real from the fake. I don’t want to say who is real and who is fake because only God knows. I just know that in due time the real will be separated from the fake. The real will keep going no matter what. The real will be there and grinding it out even through the hard times. The real will put up their own dollars to make a difference. The real will give of their time and a lot of it to make a difference. If you keep watching, you’ll see the difference between the real and the fake in due time. We need as many true servants as possible.

I tour alone for now because I’m honing my message. I’m also building my support base. I’m also being patient to see who is really committed to this and who is chasing trends. I’m very sensitive to the power of words so I’m careful about what I say and I don’t want anyone around me to say the wrong things to those who come out to see me. Beyond the words are the actions. Not many people live what they talk about and I’m aware of that fact. I know what my behind-the-scenes look like so I can trust myself. I don’t know what theirs look like and it takes a long time to get to know someone and that’s also why I tour alone. In due time more people will show their true colors and the ones left standing even after some blemishes and mistakes, those are the ones I’ll take serious. It’s a journey!

I’ve taken this message to over 10 countries and 3 different continents. Love is a universal language but we express it differently in different parts of the world. My goal is to help bring people closer to real love.

When you see my tour stops today, it’s my work. I don’t have an event planner because it’s not really needed for me. I don’t want to sell people on esthetics. I want to sell them on the message. When people come to my seminars I’m not playing on their senses. There are chairs and a mic. Then it gets real. I’m doing it all wrong if you let the pros tell it, but numbers don’t lie. Anyone who does events knows that it’s hard to even get 50 people to show up. Well, all glory to God I’ve been able to get 200 and up to show up in nearly every city I visit if it’s my event and my marketing. For someone reason when I do other people’s events it just doesn’t always work out like that. I do not know why but being a spiritual person I believe God only sends a harvest to good ground. So if I partner with someone and the event doesn’t get my normal turnout I assume that it was bad ground. God’s hand wasn’t in it because of the other hands that were in it. I’m not sure what all hands are in on the other side of the events when I’m booked. I just go in an effort to serve. That leads me back to doing my own thing. I’ve spoken at events that weren’t my own and 50-100 people show up. Then I’ll go back and do my own and 300 people show up. It’s mind boggling to see how it works but I feel that it’s God sending me a message. Do what I told you to do, how I told you to do it and I won’t let you fail.

Another fact is that I’ve only been a part of a few events where I liked how they were ran. Most event planners do way too much and try to mix in too much stuff. The people leave more confused than when they came. Simple is always best. Albert Einstein said, “make it as simple as possible but not one bit simpler.” I live by that in everything I do because it’s in my nature.

In the past I’ve done events in large cities and hundreds of people would come out and it would be them and myself. I would get online and google “event space in Los Angeles” or whatever city. Then I would click on “images.” Then I’d click the image I like the best and visit the website. Then I’ll request a quote. Then I’ll come to a price I can afford and book the room. Then I go to Eventbrite.com and make a page, one step at a time. I used to use colors, not I leave it black and white. I then have my designer make a flyer for me. Then I start promoting it online. I don’t pay for any radio ads like most event planners. I don’t pay for any sponsored posts from other influencers. I just post it just like any other post. I only care about getting the people who really support me. I never want to convince a critic to come. I don’t want that energy at my event. I don’t allow media passes. Everyone in the building has to have a paid ticket of some sort. I allow people who say they can’t afford it to come sometimes, especially if they are a client or student of mine. I let the people record it on their phones because I don’t care about that. Most will only use it for their personal use anyways.

95% of the time I introduce myself. I don’t have a host because that is energy and 90% of hosts I’ve seen have bad energy. It’s also an unnecessary expense for events like mine. The people came because they saw me post about it and they appreciate my work or are curious to learn more. They don’t really care to see a host and not once has anyone wrote in and said “you really need a host.” I’m the DJ because I have an awesome playlist my wife made me. I play it from my phone into the microphone. I’m the host. I walk up up and grab the mic and introduce myself. I’m the keynote speaker. I then moderate the Q&A and I answer the questions for 30 minutes. Then I sign every book and take every picture. In Johannesburg, South Africa I stood like 4 hours after the event to sign books and take pictures. There was 600 people at the event and it felt like they all stayed after for a picture. That’s my style. If Jesus would let a stranger grab his garment and then notice the energy that left His body; who am I to not take a picture? If Jesus was humble, then who am I to be whisked away by security? Maybe it will have to be different when I’m older with massive following or something. Maybe I’ll get tired of it. But I pray I never do. I don’t have a desire to get over it. I’m a human. I don’t want to be worshiped or idolized. I want people to see Jesus in me and they can’t see that if I act like a privileged and arrogant wannabe celebrity. I’ve noticed that’s where a lot of people go wrong. They want to be worshiped. They want to be idolized. I don’t want that. I don’t want to be God. I want God to be God and I want to be His servant.

That’s how I run a seminar and that’s how I do it 90% of the time. That will have to change someday as I grow but the point I want to make is that you have to be willing to start somewhere. I’m 10 years in as a professional speaker and that’s how I still run events. It’s a process. It’s a journey. You have to be humble and you have to be patient. I’m 33 years old. The speakers in their prime are in their 50’s and 60’s. Too many of us want it all overnight and we get frustrated when it doesn’t happen the way we want it to.

I’m learning and I’m growing. I told you a little bit of my tour story and how I’m spreading my message. Here are some lessons from it.

  1. Be willing to go alone.
  2. Don’t be afraid of the grunt work.
  3. Be every position until you can afford to hire other people.
  4. Be careful who you align yourself with.
  5. Be humble, you’re not Jesus.
  6. Be patient.
  7. Be consistent.
  8. Spend your own money.
  9. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  10. Be thankful every step of the way.

I hope you got something from this…

Be blessed,

Tony G.

*Excuse typos and grammar. A human wrote this.

Do you lack direction?

I once heard Zig Ziglar say, it’s never a lack of time but a lack of direction. That stuck with me. I’ve come to learn that many of us lack an actual plan. We don’t have a road map for our dreams and goals. I mean something we can actually look at and see what the next move is. We have it in our mind but life happens every day. If you don’t have it written down you’ll get lost.

You need a plan so you can go back to it after life has knocked you off track.

What are your ultimate goals? Write them down. Then ask yourself, how do you reach those goals. You’ll realize that to accomplish anything big it takes a lot of small steps. You take those steps daily but if you don’t have a clear direction you’ll end up nowhere.

Plan your days by the hour. If it’s a really busy day then plan it by the half or quarter hour. Each day may be different depending on the other things you have going on in your life. Not everyday has to look like the day before, that’s OK. Write down the plan and keep it with you. Look at it everyday until it becomes embedded in your DNA. With clear direction you will achieve your goals; but if you don’t have it written down you may never get there. Even if you do get there, you won’t stay there. There will always come a time that you need to be very clear about every hour of your day. Every minute counts so let nothing go to waste. Even the times you relax or sleep are meaningful and it must be added to your direction plan.

Make a plan and you will make a way!

Blessings,

Tony G.

http://www.TonyGaskins.com

Stay prayed up…

If you read the news for a few minutes it looks like the world will end tomorrow. It’s time to get your life in order. Know who you are and what you stand for. Have your beliefs and your heart in line. It’s hard to straddle the fence these days. You have to stand for something or you’ll be sucked into anything.

Stay prayed up! Be at peace with yourself. Know that at any given moment your life could change for the better or for worse. Make sure the role you’re playing in the world is a positive one. Breathe easy. Don’t lose your temper and be quick to anger because a lot of people with guns are weak minded. Don’t lose yourself or step out of character. Life is too short to stress yourself to death.

It’s time more than ever to live your dreams. Stop settling in the rat race. Be bold enough to invest in yourself and take a chance on you. We have many weak and lost leaders around the world. It’ll be up to the people to be stronger than ever before. We are growing weaker and wiser and unless there is a groundswell of driven individuals things will only get worse. Look out for yourself and your family. Mind your business. Fight for your rights and don’t stop pressing forward. It’s easy to play small and blend in. Be bold enough to stand tall and push yourself to the next level.

I can honestly say that I’ve been trying not to process all the pain and suffering in the world and I’ve been sending it up in prayer. It’s time to live a full life with no limits!!

Blessings,

Tony G.

Focus on Your Work

I’ve decided that I will do my work and not speak on how someone is doing their work wrong. If you’re doing your job correctly the work will speak for itself. Truthfully, there’s no need to knock the next person down to make yourself look better. We do it often or we hear it often. I’ve been guilty of it many times before but I didn’t realize it until it happened to me.

I was listening to someone speak on a podcast and the person started degrading people who do things differently than he does. He was talking bad about the way others make a living and give back to the world.  Basically he was saying, “listen to me because I’m right and they’re wrong.” It sounded bad to me. It sounded as if he’s still unsure of himself. It sounded as if he’s frustrated because he wants all the attention in the world and he’s not getting it. He sounded insecure. Then I said to myself, “wow, you’ve said similar things before.” It was then that I decided that I wouldn’t speak on how others do their work anymore. Instead, I’ll just do my work and let it speak for itself. The people will decide who they appreciate and who they don’t care for. It’s not up to me. I just have to do what I was called to do and let the rest sort itself out.

Don’t get frustrated because you’re not getting your just due. Don’t get frustrated because you want more from life and it doesn’t seem to be coming fast enough. Be patient and enjoy the climb. Take your time and trust that everything will happen in due time!

Just a lesson I learned. Maybe, it’ll help you too!

Blessings,

Tony G.

Get a little bit from a lot of people…

I realized once again today that no one knows it all. Anyone you listen to will have it half right. You can learn a lesson from anyone, anywhere, at any time but no one will have all the answers. We speak from where we are. We speak about what we understand. We can only truly understand what we’ve experienced. No one person should be your guide. No one will have all the answers for you. My father would always say to me, “chew the meat and spit out the bones.” I finally realized what he meant. You have to get a little bit from a lot of people. If you can grab one thing and add it to your life, that’s great! Don’t lean 100% on any human. Lean on God and trust that He will send you wisdom in a multitude of ways. I’ve learned lessons from my sons and my oldest isn’t even 10 years old yet. I’ve learned lessons from wall paint, rugs, stamps on a envelope and the list goes on. Pay attention to everyone and everything you come in contact with. Be determined to take at least one lesson away from every interaction. In some you’ll see where their pessimism limits them. In some you’ll see where their optimism confuses them. In some you’ll see where their conceit hinders them. In some you’ll see where their ignorance blinds them. You’ll get a lesson everywhere you look if you’re paying attention.

Don’t put all your trust in one person. Don’t live your life based on the lessons you learned from one source. Differences create strengths. Learn from people older and younger, darker and lighter, stronger and weaker. Learn from it all and take nothing for granted. Sometimes it’s the lessons you didn’t expect to learn that will change your life the most.

Keep learning!!

Tony A. Gaskin Jr.

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Don’t stay down

In every aspect of life we will be knocked down at some point. That’s life. The key is that you always get back up. If you’re cheated on you can’t keep allowing it to happen. If you lose your job you can’t sit at home crying about and not applying for a new job. If your business flops you can’t stop there and never try again. You will be knocked down over and over, but it’s not failure. It’s an opportunity to learn and grow.

Embrace the struggles and setbacks and let them teach you a lesson. Get something out of the pain, heartache, and embarrassment. Don’t let mishaps come in your life and steal your joy and your drive. Let it make you stronger and wiser. You’ll always win if you can find the good even in the bad.

Don’t stay down! Get up and keep fighting!

Blessings

Tony A. Gaskins Jr.


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